Four Truths I, Personally, Hold Self-Evident
Dec 09
I realize I risk sounding like an immature teenager throughout this entire post, and that is precisely why I will type every syllable with the careful affection I would show to being labeled exactly that. The following is what I have, four truths that I, personally, hold self-evident.
There is nothing wrong with living a life where you pursue happiness at all costs. As a greater society, as a species, it seems we have been developing this idea that whatever the norm is, so shall that be the reflection of what is right. If you are doing something that makes you happy, you seem selfish, self-serving, a person of foolish decisions. But if the norm is the look I see on the faces of every commuting 9 to 5er, of every Walmart “Associate”, of all you Church pew filling Saved, well my friends, I believe it is time to reevaluate what the norm should be. It was once normal to own, rape and kill slaves. At one point, the norm was to be tried without a jury, imprisoned without a cause, and you had to worship whatever God some lucky bastard born into a throne deemed you should. When those pilgrims took up ship and headed for America, they knew the danger, they knew the risk, and they knew the reward: happiness. There is no certainty as to what will happen when our hearts stop beating, and to waste one second of this life compromising happiness or the chance of it for doing what’s right simply because it is the most normal life is a sin in my eyes as sickening as suicide.
Living in a vehicle the size of a VW Bus is not wrong and nor is it extreme. Analogies…well, in a flower bed, we see the plants which are the most able to spread and take over the bed as weeds, even in the case of dandelions which are nearly identical to the daisy in appearance, we recognize that plants who want to expand and expand until they squelch out the resources of all others in the garden to be weeds. So could one liken the ever increasing appetites of Western consumerism, land grabbing, garbage dumps with more wealth in them than entire African villages, to weeds in a world full of gardens. Of course, no one would like to believe themselves the dandelion and not the rose. Additionally, I believe that the size of our homes is directly proportional to the disconnection of our people as a culture. As our personal abodes get larger and larger we physically and emotionally get further and further apart. Where a family of 13 living in a three bedroom house in the 60’s and 70’s ate dinner together every night, now a family of 4 takes their fast food into their own various rooms and eats separately every night. Again, it is fast becoming normal for people to have homes with more bedrooms than people. That is fine for those of you who choose to live that way, and though I am happy to be free to express my opinions on this website, you are equally able to not digest them here. However, please realize that this mode of living–with 10 foot ceilings, three bathrooms, two car garages–is a very, very new one. I’d set its current age at maybe 30. Go back further than three decades and I believe you’ll find that only lords and kings, only the rich had such amenities that we’ve all grown so used to so quickly. Homesteaders, even with their acres of land, lived in much smaller houses. Indians lived in teepees made of material more vulnerable than that of any Volkswagen and I can guarantee you they were a better race of people than we. They lived here for some 12,000 years without screwing up this most beautiful land. We’ve largely done it in 500. So my point, living in a bus in not extreme, is valid for most of human existence unless you compare it to the extreme that is living in a modern day mansion for the every man.
Having possessions is the root of America’s downfall. “You are not what you own.” A FUGAZI song. I believe the meaning behind the lyrics there is something akin to, simply because you have everything does not mean you are everything. Possession leads to bills, bills lead to work, work takes time and time, for everyone, leads to death. Please don’t ever think that because someone has less stuff, they are living less of a life. Indeed, related to the previous paragraph, even having less space in your home leads to more life, because it forces you to explore the redwoods you’re living under, the desert you’re living in, the world you’re living on. There’s a current campaign called “Play60″ that I think the government is putting on, with ads everywhere encouraging children to play for at least 60 minutes a day. Barring any tragic disability that prevents them from doing so, if your children are having a hard time playing–I mean hard ass, running around, out of breath playing–for only one hour a day, well, your children suck at being kids. Far be it from me to say what any particular child should do, but I will, because it’s obvious: wake up, play like crazy until you’re so tired you fall asleep in your lunch bowl, wake up, do it again, repeat until bed time.
Christianity is a farce, not because the ideas are unsound, but because the practitioners are all too often full of shit. I considered not adding this one because I’m over the whole “I don’t believe in God rebellion” that I was dealing with throughout my 20’s, but for something that was brought to my attention recently I think I should mention this. If you look at a street person and think they are dangerous simply because they are dirty; if you wouldn’t pick up a hitchhiker pulling their jacket tight walking through the belting night rain; if you feel that living a completely safe life can be accomplished by shutting out those in the world who are less fortunate, well I really think you’re missing the entire point of that book of yours. To be in it for the Heaven, for the big payoff, is wrong. Jesus wasn’t tell you “be a good person or else you’ll go to Hell,” though his Dad didn’t seem to have much else to say. Jesus was saying “be a good person because it’s the right thing to do, because it’ll make this world a better place, because when everyone is good and kind to one another, everyone can be happy.” Instead of holding out a helping hand, you’ve given us the Crusades, gay bashing and George Bush. You know, the “good work.”
I largely try and avoid writing about things like this here in favor of attempting to accurately describe how beautiful a pile of leaves on a car hood is, I realize, and I won’t make a habit of it, but I thought they were items that needed to be said. So I have, and now, I am done.
Sean
9 Dec 2009 7:20 pm
You’ve said it all just as it needs to be said. Unfortunately, for many people, these truths are not so self evident. I come to this from following Tumblewagon and I look forward to future writings!
Shea Bella
9 Dec 2009 10:19 pm
While I agree with you about following happy at all costs, there are occasions when we must be selfless. Like taking care of your mother when she is sick, or raising a child, or staying beside your partner when they have lost their limbs. I don’t mean to play devil’s advocate…but I guess it is freeing that we always have the right to choose what we do with our lives. We all just hope we have made the right choices.
Living in a VW bus is not wrong or extreme, DAMN STRAIGHT.
And for the love of all things pleasant, people get over your possessions.
And yes, Christians can be raunchy.
Ok, see I only disagreed with you about one thing. One REALLY GIANT thing.
barenakedfamily
10 Dec 2009 9:04 am
Amen brother teen.
Does not pursuing happiness in fact include taking care of your invalids… when the alternate means misery for yourself?
Perspective – a sick mother may be better off in a home; A child better off with foster care; a partner in rehab.
Nor do I disagree with Shea Bella.
Black & White does not work in a world where by definition they are defined as ‘absence of color’ & ‘all the colors’.
-Greg
admin
10 Dec 2009 11:42 am
Truth be told! I’m in concurrence, indeed, as I would feel only happy to repay my mother the chicken soup & late night coughing downpayments she’s installed with me, find nothing but joy and mild annoyance at times with raising the boy, and can only imagine the fun toss around times one might have with their limbless true loves.
Rene
10 Dec 2009 2:04 pm
Thanks Nathan, I needed that especially right now as I am surrounded by freakishly superficial people here in Los Angeles, at Christmastime.
You have spoken the truth, feel free to continue anytime.
Shea Bella
10 Dec 2009 2:12 pm
PUUUUHLEASE! Both Barenaked and Nathan know the point I am making. That we may not always be happy because of things we must do in this life. If you want a few million references on how you cannot always be happy when taking care of a sick mother, raising a child, and staying married…then just let me know. Not that these things make us exclusively UNHAPPY. But you can’t exactly pursue your joy in life when you are being selfless in these areas.
You two. Sheesh.
rodgar
10 Dec 2009 9:06 pm
Is Christianity a farce? Why do you hold Christians to standards you yourself don’t live up to? Have you ever taken in a young man living off the streets, loved him, housed him, and helped them to a better life? Well I have, he is now my adopted son. I love him as if he was my own flesh and blood. And guess what, I am a Christian and know I am not perfect. And neither are you……..
admin
11 Dec 2009 12:02 pm
You got us, Shea! You’re right, too. I wasn’t disagreeing with you in particular, just mentioning some stuff.
And you’re right, Rodgar, I’m not perfect and I don’t expect anyone else to be either. I realize that my opinions on Christianity, the religion in which I grew up in and watched as the adults and leaders in our Church consistently acted like hypocrites on such a regular basis while at the same time being so adamant about pushing their beliefs on others that I just have found myself completely disillusioned by the whole thing.
And yes, I have taken in multiple young men off the streets and hooked them up with a place to stay, found them or helped them find work, and got them back on their feet again to go out into the world.
I live by a certain set of morals and rules for my own life, and I stick by them. I don’t push them, forcefeed them down my son’s throat and chastize others for not believing in them as well. They are my rules and they are mine to live by. I don’t accompany them with the idea that if you don’t believe what I believe, you’ll burn in hell forever.
I know people are not perfect, but practicing what you preach is 100% essential in my opinion. If you want to live a different life, do it, but don’t say you believe in Jesus Christ, in what he was all about and then criticize me for helping out the down and out because it seems dangerous, simply because they are in fact down and out.
And I do realize that their are plenty of Christians out there who do live the life they read about, so cheers to them.
shea bell
11 Dec 2009 2:30 pm
I agree with Nathan. Why do you have to say you’re a martian to be a martian? Just be a martian!!
Doh! I mean christian.
Larry Perwinkle
11 Dec 2009 9:35 pm
True. Be joyful. It took me a long time to figure this out.
Some of my happiest memories are of living in my 77 vw bus in the Colorado mountains.
Most cool things you can fit in your head. All your worldly processions should fit in one bag.
Christianity is a belief that makes some people comfortable with the reality of death. Don’t let anyone shove it down your throat.